From Whipped Moth, 11 Months ago, written in Plain Text.
  13. With a wonderful, supportive husband; you may find that you are able to relax and enjoy the whole experience of childbirth and after. I hope you can. However, the hormones of pregnancy, labour and the post-partum period do things to your body that you most definitely do not control and that can even threaten your life. Since a dead, disabled or mentally ill mother is no use to any child, it is not appropriate to say that the child or your husband's wishes are more important than you. I'm quite sure that is not what you meant and I'm also sure that as your husband loves you he would never put you in any danger or allow you to suffer any unnecessary distress. However, I think it is better to head towards labour and the post-partum period with a realistic understanding of just how messy and dreadful it can get when things go wrong. Don't forget that death during childbirth in the poorer countries of the world is still horribly common and is not completely avoidable even in the best equipped of modern maternity wards. My sister, a midwife, had to deal with a maternal death just a few weeks ago. While that is thankfully an incredibly rare experience in the UK, she brings home regular tales of difficult births and I know from my own experience and that of friends just how real, difficult and debilitating post-natal depression can be.
  15. Please do not be put off by this though. I am delighted that you are enjoying pregnancy so much and relishing the prospect of parenthood. I wish you great joy and I'm sure that with good advice, support and perseverance you will enjoy the process of breastfeeding. I certainly did (although the initial stages were very very tricky for me). I just don't like to think that you might end up beating up on yourself if your planned birth does not materialise and you find yourself experiencing a messy emergency C-section or find the pain of post-natal mastitis so debilitating that you are unable to breastfeed. Your health, welfare and happiness are utterly vital to the health and welfare of your child. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to go with the flow. Good luck!
  17. by a Taken In Hand reader on 2006 Aug 1 - 22:34 | reply to this comment
  18. Good luck!
  19. Carolina,